🌿 Not All Trauma Looks the Way You Think It Does

Why the "Little Things" You Dismiss Might Be Holding You Back

When we think about trauma, we often picture one big, overwhelming event — something that changed the course of a person’s life in an obvious and undeniable way.

But what if I told you that trauma doesn’t always come from the dramatic moments?

In fact, some of the deepest wounds come from small, repeated experiences — moments that were brushed off, downplayed, or simply never acknowledged.

The ones that didn’t look like trauma at all……but still changed how you saw yourself.

🌱 Maybe for you, it was something like:

• Being told your singing was “too loud” or your voice was “annoying.”

• Being labelled as “too sensitive” when you cried.

• Being expected to suck it up and carry on when you were hurting.

• Being ignored when you tried to share how you felt.

• Being laughed at for expressing yourself or dreaming big.

They might seem minor on the surface.

But deep down, they created a shift.

A moment your young, developing mind made a decision:

❌ “It’s not safe to be seen.”

❌ “My feelings don’t matter.”

❌ “I’m not lovable unless I make people happy.”

❌ “I need to tone myself down to fit in.”

❌ “Something must be wrong with me.”

💭 And from there, you started dimming your light.

You became careful with your words.

Held back your brilliance.

Started avoiding the spotlight — even when you wanted to shine.

And somewhere along the way, you lost connection with your true self.

But here’s the truth I want you to hear today:

You were never too much.You were never not enough.You were always just right — but the world taught you otherwise.

And if that message landed in your body in a moment of confusion, fear, embarrassment or shame…Then it created an imprint. One that’s probably still shaping how you show up today.

So no — trauma doesn’t always have to be “big” to be impactful.

Our subconscious mind isn’t measuring how dramatic something looked.It’s measuring what it meant to us at the time.

And when those meanings are left unresolved — they don’t go away.

They show up as:

– Overthinking

– Lack of confidence

– Self-sabotage

– Fear of rejection

– People-pleasing

– Emotional reactivity

– Parenting patterns you swore you'd avoid

And when you don’t know where it started, it can feel impossible to fix.

💡 This is the work I do.

Through Rapid Transformational Therapy and Coaching, I help individuals uncover and rewrite the deep-seated beliefs that were never truly theirs — just stories they picked up along the way.

You don’t need to “relive” anything.

You don’t need to have all the answers.

You just need to be ready to come home to yourself.

✨ Healing starts with understanding.

And understanding begins with curiosity.

So if something in this post resonated… if you’ve felt like you’re still carrying the effects of things you thought were “no big deal” — please know this:

You are not broken.

You are not alone.

And you are more than capable of releasing what was never yours to carry.

When you heal…You don’t just transform your own life.

You change what your children see.

You shift what the next generation learns.

And that is powerful work.

With belief in who you truly are,

Rebecca x

🌿 Rapid Transformational Therapist & Life Coach

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