We are all unique individuals making our own way in a big wide world. No two people will take away exactly the same feelings, emotions, experiences or outcome from a situation, event or activity. They might be similar but very rarely are they totally identical! For example if three friends were to go to a cafe on a lovely sunny Sunday morning and each one ordered a full English breakfast. They all catch up on what has gone on since they last saw each other and exchange news.

Let us start by discussing what we spend on other things: I know that I used to spend a lot of money on buying home yoga, pilates and programmes in my search for something that might help me get into shape at home in a small amount of time (don't have a lot of spare time!). Something that might shrink my menopausal tummy and make me feel more human! I have also spent lots on things like make up, until not wearing it through the lockdowns has made me see I don't need to wear i

Have you ever wondered why your feeling guilty as a parent? Could it be that it is because what you did or didn't do has fueled a childhood memory and therefore given you that same feeling you had as a child yourself. One that maybe you had forgotten or brushed aside and now has surfaced reviving that feeling and making you feel bad. You might not even be able to put the two together but suddenly there you are feeling bad, feeling horrible and we feel it is guilt! Or could it

I believe in some cases they are through no fault of our own. So let me explain:- We put a lot of energy into worrying about what others are thinking about us, what we have done to deserve certain behaviours or what we have done wrong, all made on assumptions we have formed as they haven't returned our calls, haven't been in touch for awhile or from how we are reading their body language or how they are acting towards us. But why are we so quick to assume and blame ourselves?

In a world where we spend a huge amount of time on social media where we are inundated with what we perceive as other peoples perfect lives, where we post a photo waiting for people to like it, where some share all the ins and outs of our lives, where we follow influencers and where we have algorithms choosing what adverts or posts they think we would like to see. This does various things to us - it influences how we feel, controls us without us even realizing, triggers a nee